Victim's Advocate for Collin County Children, District Attorney's Office
A powerful force for the abused children of Collin County in a time when only a few chose to
address the issue. My first and most beloved mentor; I miss her. A fierce advocate, she was
the epitome of class. A diminutive fashionista with fiery red hair, yet for all of her presence
victims of crime, especially children, sought refuge and comfort in her embrace. Through her
words, actions and books (which she handed to me to read by the dozens), she taught me the
importance of the force I wield within Law Enforcement. I learned that with one hand we are to
protect children, but that is secondary to the responsibility of applying comfort and safety to
children with the other.
A survivor. Her life was consumed by the untreated memories of her past and the ugliness of
those around her in her final days.
A foster parent. Proud of the accomplishments of the "rainbow coalition of children" that she
saved, nurtured and protected. I miss her kids' stories.
A leader before her time, she never saw the actualization of the Collin County Children's
Advocacy Center, its MDT, and its impact on the community. Many know of my contributions,
few know that she was, and is, my inspiration.
To her children, she loved you. She gave too much to Collin County, and many stood by and
watched as her past and present consumed her. Do not let this taint your memories of her.
You honor her and, as many of you have, you continue to make her proud.
Detective (retired), Dallas Police Department Sexual Exploitation Unit
Back when there was little training in child abuse investigation, the Godfather Lt. Bill Walsh
(ret.), allowed me to "tag along" with his Dallas Police Department Sexual Exploitation Unit.
It was on one of these occasions that I watched in awe as Joe interrogated a seasoned,
multi-convicted pedophile. This guy was a picture of a sadistic pedophile straight out of an FBI
I thought to myself, "There's no way this guy will confess." I was wrong; he did. Joe and his
philosophies are at the core of all of my perpetrator interrogation trainings. Many speak of the
"art and science of forensic interviewing" (more on that issue at another time), but there is also
an art to successful interrogations of child abusers. It is very difficult to write down or put into a
PowerPoint, but in order to be successful it must be mastered. Joe was the finest artist our
field ever had. Those of us who had the opportunity to speak with him or simply hang out with
him should cherish the experience and the stories.
As he ascended to prominence as a national and then an international presenter and expert he
never changed. The very nature of (inter)national prominence makes it difficult to keep one's
feet and head grounded. This issue did not apply to Joe; he epitomized humility. I miss seeing
and speaking to him, and learning from him.
Every interrogation class I present is "trademark" Joe Cannibano. Not the articles, the
descriptions or the PowerPoints, but the lecture style, the nuance, the idiosyncrasies. When
you achieve "The Art," remember Joe Cannibano. He wold be proud to know that perpetrators
are in prison and children are safe.
Therapist, lecturer, writer
To know Jan was a "very touching experience" (pun intended). No boundaries existed. You
had to experience the phenomena firsthand. I was drawn to her classes at conferences as
her national "colleagues" berated her during their "group intellectual incestuous diatribes."
What I found was an educated, insightful, committed therapist with a dedicated following. The
stars aligned after a conference and I found myself at an airport with Jan awaiting a flight.
We spoke of our love of the belated Leo Buscaglia. In time the conversation turned to what
was prominent on my mind. I had two brand new daughters and I asked her what was
important for me as a father to two girls. She told me to be a feminist. To listen and hear what
they are saying, to be there for them, to share and allow them to see that I am not perfect.
Most importantly, she told me to talk to them about everything, especially the demystification of
the taboo of menarche, their bodies, etc. She told me to ask them about the "funny feeling." I
asked her what the "funny feeling" was and she said not to worry about it, just talk to them.
When I returned home I headed to the Women's Health section of our local bookstore,
determined to put into action the lessons I learned from Jan. Time will tell if I have been
I miss her smile, her embrace, her warmth. I think that, beyond what we learned from her in
class, she was therapist to us all, helping us to navigate our lives as we navigate the lives' of
It is not enough to shed tears for those who suffer the tragedy of sexual abuse, nor will much
be accomplished nurturing hatred and devising punishments for those who sexually abuse.
Only by sharing knowledge, providing training, exchanging ideas, and challenging traditional
beliefs and biases can we respond effectively to sexual victimization.
~ Jan Hindman